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Tell Your Friends
by Charles Daney
If you're a naturist or have naturist tendencies, there are various good reasons you should tell your friends - and family, associates, neighbours, and casual acquaintances too. For one thing, you're bound to discover a few people who have a secret interest in that direction themselves. So you'll find more people to enjoy nudity with. For another thing, you'll be doing your little bit to help educate the public at large that nudity is natural rather than weird, and that it can add a lot to one's life. This education will eventually make things easier for everyone who wants to enjoy nudity.
Naturally, the thing many are afraid of is the chance of a bad reaction, and all the unpleasant consequences that could follow. I can't guarantee that will never happen, of course. But it's less likely than you probably think. And if you just use common sense in whom you talk to about it - which some of the suggestions below will address - you can probably figure out the people you can open up to and those you can't.
In any case, perhaps the best thing about telling others is that you don't have to suffer the guilt of having to be secretive about what you enjoy. It isn't anything to be ashamed of, so don't invite guilty feelings by acting as if it were.
A lot of the trick to telling others is just some forethought and planning. Plus practice. Think about one or two people who would be the best to start with - and go for it. The suggestions here will, hopefully, get your thinking started.
1. Understand your own reasons for enjoying nudity. The first question most people have is 'WHY do you do it?' Be able to offer two or three good reasons off the top of your head. There are many possibilities - comfort, relaxation, stress reduction, no tan lines, feeling of sun and breeze on bare skin, body acceptance, improved self-confidence, honesty, benefits to friendships and relationships, more open feeling when socialising with others. Just speak for yourself, and don't try initially to list reasons others may have. For more possibilities, check here.
2. Think about natural ways to bring up the subject in normal
conversation, such as discussions related to:
Forms of recreation naturists often enjoy (swimming,
volleyball, backcountry hiking).
Getting a perfect all-over tan.
Places naturists like to go (beaches, hot springs, naturist
clubs and resorts).
Naturist activities enjoyed on special vacations.
Health and psychological benefits of naturism.
News stories, advertising, or TV shows including some sort
of non-sexual nudity.
Using your pool, spa, or sauna nude.
Being nude while working at home.
How odd it is that some people seem to have become so
easily embarrassed about changing their clothes and
showering at gyms and public swimming pools.
Something interesting you recently did while happening to be
naked.
3. Incorporate being a naturist / nudist in your self-image. One of
the biggest steps is to be completely OK with saying 'I am a nudist.'
Don't waffle. Tell the person you're talking to that you DO consider
yourself a nudist or naturist. Let it be one of the aspects that make
you YOU, along with exercising and working out, reading science
fiction, or enjoying camping. This lets you be ready at any time to
mention matter-of-factly something interesting that happened the last
time you were at the nude beach, club, or campground.
4. Keep a few conversation starters around, such as nudist / naturist
books or magazines, tasteful nude art, discreet photos of yourself
and family nude in normal activities. If you're a little bolder, wear or
display buttons, T-shirts, bumper stickers that convey the message.
5. Talk about how you got started. This is especially good if nudity
is something you first enjoyed as a child, because it's 'innocent' and
perhaps 'cute'. But in any case, let your own story illustrate how
simple and natural and easy it was once you got into it. Emphasise
any humorous aspects. Don't be afraid to mention embarrassing
incidents, and how you got through them just fine. First person
stories and experiences are always more convincing than abstract
philosophising.
6. Don't be defensive and don't start by trying to correct all the
misconceptions people have about naturism. Don't start off by
saying, 'Of course, naturists don't have orgies all the time.' You will
seem to be protesting too much. Answer such objections only when
they're raised by the other person. Adopt the attitude that there's
nothing that needs to be defended, because nudity isn't 'wrong' or
'harmful' or 'immoral' etc. Emphasise the positives.
7. Here are some of the common objections and misconceptions.
Be ready with truthful responses.
It's immoral/sinful. Response: Ask for specific citations from
a relevant authority that says this. It isn't in the Bible, for
example. Many devout religious believers, including ministers,
practice nudism / naturism.
It's weird/crazy. Response: Most people who actually try it
find quickly that it feels perfectly normal, and you don't act
any differently when not wearing clothes. It's casually
accepted without any fuss many places in Europe.
It's disgusting/offensive. Response: It's ridiculous and
unhealthy for human beings to be disgusted or offended by
the sight of others just like themselves.
It's bound to make people horny all the time. Response: Just
not so. You quickly learn not to associate nudity with sex
outside of the proper time and place.
It's unsanitary. Response: Naturists bathe frequently and
keep towels handy for sitting on.
It's harmful for children. Response: Studies show no evidence
of this. Millions of children have been raised in nudist families
in the last 80 years, with no evidence of more harm than in
non-nudist families. Surely the evidence of harm would be
widely publicised if it existed.
It's illegal. Response: Definitely not in the privacy of your
own home or a nudist club / resort. And it's usually not illegal
in most places when the nudity is discreet, not lewd, and not
intended to affront or alarm. Public nudity is accepted and
traditional in a number of places around the country. (But
check carefully on your own local laws to be sure you don't
live in one of the 'wrong' places.)
8. Read a selection of naturist / nudist writings from books and
magazines. This will help you organise your thoughts about the
benefits that others have discovered in naturism, in addition to those
you've found yourself. It will also help you answer the common
objections. Finally, you'll learn some of the history of nudism and
naturism, which goes back much farther than most people realise.
You'll easily convince people that you know what you're talking
about - because you do. You'll have anecdotes available from
history and other people's experience that help illustrate points you
want to make.
9. Different approaches work with different people - understand
where they're coming from first. When talking with people you
know, use common sense about who you should or should not tell.
Don't waste time with people who may be well-meaning but still
clearly prudish or closed-minded. Look for people with interests
shared by many naturists, such as enjoyment of travel, outdoor
recreation, physical and mental health. Stress the aspects of
naturism that are most likely to appeal to their interest.
10. Explain about naturism, but don't proselytise. Be casual about it
- you don't want to seem like a fanatic. Don't expect to convert
anyone, or even try to. At first just aim to get them to understand
why you enjoy nudity and nude activities. Be satisfied if they say,
'It's OK for you, but I could never do that.' At least then you'll be
able to keep discussing it with them, just like you would any other
subject. Quite possibly they'll eventually change their minds. Drop
hints that they'd be welcome to join you sometime, but let them
actually be the first to suggest it.
11. If you do detect any evidence of interest, offer to lend them a
few magazines or books on naturism. (Keep extras on hand so you
don't 'lose' anything you don't want to.) Show them how to find
places on the Web (like this site) where they can learn more on their
own.
12.
If someone does persist in expressing doubts or disapproval,
shrug it off and agree to disagree. But stress the value of lifestyle
diversity.
Remind them that harmless differences among people are
what makes life more varied and more interesting.
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